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{ Monthly Archives } September 2006

Back to the old friends

The nice thing about coming home after a week or so away is meeting up with my old friends again. Like that pound of asparagus that I bought before I left. Oh well, at least the parts that hadn’t gone slimy made for a good lunch today, which is more than you can say for some friends. :)

Although I had the greatest intentions of putting my head down and getting a lot of work done this week, so far it looks like this:

  • Monday: fly home from London, pretend to be a vegetable the rest of the afternoon, answer some email, watch a bit of TV and crawl into bed early with a book
  • Tuesday (that’s today): blog, do laundry, do a customer conference call twice when they get the time wrong, and (any minute now) have an afternoon nap
  • Wednesday: figure out how to attend two webinars that are on at the same time, maybe get some real work done, then take off mid-afternoon to run my wine-tasting club’s annual silent auction since the usual organizer had a family emergency
  • Thursday: visit a few condos with the real estate agent, do two conference calls (one of which is actually billable), a bit more work, then knock off around 5 to go to the spa and dinner with a friend (since god knows, I’ll need it by then)
  • Friday: no other distractions booked, so I really might get some work done that day, although I do have a friend in town from Phoenix who I want to meet up with some time…

Sometimes the flexibility of being self-employed is great, and other times it just highlights how little motivation that I can have some days.

Staying with friends

One of the great things about the jobs that I used to have, which required a lot of business travel, is that I now have a network of people who I know around the world. Some of them are more friends than just business acquaintances, which has the extra benefit of providing a cheap place to stay when I visit certain cities. I’ve been travelling for the past 8 days to London and southern France, and stayed with friends the whole time, which was great. In a hotel, I would have spent more time hanging out on my own, ordering crappy food from room service and watching bad TV; this way, I had family dinners, pleasant chats and managed to attend two birthday parties.

Of course, there’s always the bits that aren’t quite as convenient. My friends in London are outside the city which creates some logistical issues with the transportation to my business meetings. They also have three small kids, and the spare bedroom is the kid’s playroom; early Thursday morning, a 1-year-old crawled on in and serenaded me on a xylophone. That in turn led me to forget that I had left a pair of panties that I had washed by hand hanging on the back of the bedroom/playroom door, something that I remembered two days later when I was in France. Thong panties, to be precise. Luckily, my friend found them when she was tidying up for the 1-year-old’s birthday party on Saturday, and we had a laugh about it when I returned on Sunday.

This trip was primarily about the conference that I was speaking about in London, and the trip to France was purely to see my friends in Tourouzelle. She’s just starting to sell real estate down there, and it’s very tempting to consider a little cottage in a French village — food and wine are very inexpensive down there, property prices are still pretty reasonable, and the countryside is very pretty. On the other hand, she did hit a wild boar with her car on the way to a property showing the other day, not something that’s likely to happen in downtown Toronto. Unfortunately, she only stunned it in spite of the major damage that it did to the front corner of her car, so there was no wild boar for dinner.

It’s always interesting to stay with another couple, especially one that you don’t see very often, to see the dynamics of their particular coupledom. For example, I’m shocked that the father of three young kids whose wife works can possibly imagine that she’s going to do all the child care as well as all the cooking and housework, although there’s definitely two complicit in that arrangement. I’m also pleasantly surprised at how a couple that used to spar quite openly now seem much closer in the face of some financial setbacks.

Travelling around

I’ve been in London since Sunday, and gave a presentation about Web 2.0 and BPM at a conference here today. Tomorrow, I’m off to the south of France to visit some friends for a few days, back here on Sunday, and home to Toronto on Monday.

The funny thing is, it looks like I will spend more time and money getting from where I’m staying with friends west of London out to Stansted airport than it will take to fly from Stansted to Carcassonne. Weird economics.

National Geographic podcasts

I just discovered the National Geographic podcasts: I’m in so much trouble, I already have so many podcasts that I download every day, soon I’ll be a professional podcast-listener…

I’ve already subscribed to “50 Walks of a Lifetime” from Traveler magazine (a publication to which I used to subscribe, and longingly read each issue) and “Video Shorts”, which included a 3-minute video on how to make the rotten shark dish that I narrowly avoided eating while in Iceland a few years ago.

I can’t, however, get a list of the podcasts so that I can send a link to a specific podcast to my friends who haven’t yet figured out iTunes.

BlogHer Business ‘07

I haven’t yet seen anyone from BlogHer create an Upcoming.org event for the BlogHer Business conference to be held in New York in March, so I did. As I mentioned previously, I’m unlikely to attend another general BlogHer conference, but a business-focussed one might work for me.

Marathoning with Arthritis

Susan prepping for the marathonMy friend Susan has had rheumatoid arthritis for over 25 years, and a couple of years ago she ran her first marathon. I was there in Dublin in 2004 when she ran her second one, and now she’s running the half-marathon in Amsterdam on October 15th. She solicits charitable donations for the Arthritis Society as part of their Joints in Motion running team: note that usually a JIM team is made up of people who are running in support of someone who them know with arthritis, not the arthritis sufferer herself.

If you know Susan, or even if you don’t, you can sponsor her online here.

Where were you on September 11, 2001?

Five years on, this is the theme for a great deal of news coverage today, including my daily dose of Rocketboom and the wiki where they’ve been gathering stories.

Six days before 9/11 was my final day working at FileNet in southern California: tired of the boys club and political infighting, I had given notice in early August, and in fact had extended my leaving date by a week when I was needed in Philadelphia for one last bit of evangelizing on August 31st. I spent the Labour Day weekend in Toronto and flew back to Los Angeles on September 3rd to finish up working on the 5th.

Bodega BayWith almost everything that I owned in storage, since I had no idea where I’d be going next, I packed what I needed for the next couple of months in the tiny trunk of my car, put the top down, and headed north on the 6th. My only plan was to be in Vancouver at my brother’s home for (Canadian) Thanksgiving, which fell on October 8th that year, so I was really taking my time up the Pacific Coast Highway: the first night, I only drove to Santa Barbara. The next night, I was in Carmel, then spent the weekend with one night with friends at their place in Bodega Bay, and one night at the Calistoga Spa Hot Springs to meet up with some friends from Toronto.

HeavenlyMonday was bright and clear, and I decided to head for Lake Tahoe, since I’d never been there before. I was scheduled to head back to Sacramento on Tuesday to meet up with my friend Philip from Toronto, who was working there that week and realized that we likely wouldn’t have a chance to meet up again for a few months since I was headed off to Australia for at least a month after Thanksgiving. We chatted on the phone on Monday afternoon and I made a hotel reservation in Sacramento for the night of the 11th. I was hiking pretty much every day in addition to whatever driving I did, so pretty much just crawling into bed at night, and the night of the 10th was no exception: staying at Camp Richardson which was in the woods, no phones, no TV (except in the lounge of the main lodge), only the raccoons at night to keep me awake.

Tuesday, September 11th, 2001: my cell phone rings just before 8am, and I see from the caller ID that it’s Philip. Fuck, doesn’t he know that I’m not on a work schedule any more? He sounded a bit shaken, and said “Turn on your TV”. “I don’t have one”, I replied. “Radio?” “Nope.” He proceeded to tell me in a couple of sentences what had happened: planes hitting the towers, both towers collapsed by now. Given the setting in the woods at Tahoe, the whole thing was a bit surreal, almost unbelievable. We agreed that I wouldn’t come down to Sacramento as planned since he already realized that travel was going to be a problem and was focussing on getting home to Toronto; I hung up and headed for the lodge lounge with the only TV around to watch the endless replays of what had happened.

My first thoughts were of my FileNet colleagues in New York, and I made calls over the next several hours until I finally reached someone in the southern California head office who confirmed that everyone from the New York office was safe. I eventually did meet up with Philip the next day when he drove by Lake Tahoe on his way back to Toronto — he made Chicago in about 30 hours, then stopped over for the weekend before continuing on to Toronto.

VikingsholmI ended up spending the rest of the week at Camp Richardson, figuring that any bigger city was going to be swamped with stranded travellers. Also, the chance of any terrorist attack on Lake Tahoe in off-season was practically nil, making this about the safest place in this country that I no longer wanted to be in. On the 12th or 13th, I was hiking near Vikingsholm on the west side of the lake and overheard a group of 50-ish Americans talking about the attacks. “We should just go in and bomb them!”, declared one man (although it’s not clear that he knew who they should be bombing), which gave me a bit of a shiver when I realized that this was all likely headed for war.

Six days before 9/11, I was a software company executive, flying 100,000 miles each year (much of it long-haul flights), with LAX as my home airport. All four flights that day were long-haul. Three of the four were headed for LAX. Timing is everything.

Rick’s back!

Just when I was about to delete him from my RSS reader, Rick Mercer came back from summer vacation and resumed blogging today. I look forward to his posts as well as the new season of his show.

Moving hell

Seems like it’s the time of year for people to be moving, and almost every one of them has a horror story to tell. I was reminded of a post about moving that I had read some time ago on Joey deVilla’s blog, the comments on which resulted in him getting some nasty phone calls from the thugs at Quick Boys Moving, when my sister Betty had a slight moving catastrophe last week.

Betty moved 6 doors down the same street in her Toronto neighbourhood, from a 2-storey house to a flat on the 2nd and 3rd floor of another house. She called around for movers who would do a moving job without a truck, which was apparently something that they’re just not programmed to accept, since it really just needed 2 or 3 guys and a couple of dollys to cart the stuff down the sidewalk. Finally, she found Desi Movers, and had two (two!) discussions on the phone with the owner telling him that a) no truck was needed, and b) there’s one flight of stairs at the start, and two at the finish. No problem, he said, quoted her a price, said that there was no minimum number of hours, and said that they’d be there at 8:30 sharp last Monday.

The only thing that arrived at her place at 8:30 sharp on Monday was me with her coffee, and we waited until almost 9:30 for the movers to show up: 2 of them, with one dolly. The movers whipped out a contract for her to sign that a) had a four-hour minimum, although she estimated that three would do it, and b) it was an extra $15 per man per set of stairs. She called the owner, who first had to be convinced that they were not going to use the truck since it was parked practically in front of the new place anyway, and then told her that the guys didn’t want to do the move because she was apparently depriving them of their stairs bonus. Now, she should have had a written contract before starting, and he really should have come out to see the place before giving an estimate, but this is the type of moving-day extortion that is so common that I wasn’t completely surprised when it happened.

She prepaid them for 3 hours, with the agreement that she’d pay more if they went over that time, then we proceeded to have the 3 slowest hours of moving that I have ever seen. Two pre-schoolers with a rickety wagon could have gone faster at some points during the morning. When the couch wouldn’t fit up the stairs at the new place and the landlord (who lives downstairs) was taking the door and part of the door frame off to accommodate it, they mostly just stood around instead of moving the remaining boxes out of the old place and down the sidewalk to the new place. One particularly heavy box was just left at the old place, and a heavy one at the new place was left on the porch until they were prompted several times to carry it up the stairs. At one point, they just stopped going upstairs in the old place, leaving 12-15 boxes up there, then at 12:30 they got in the truck, told Betty that they had another job to be at, and drove off. To say that she was furious would be a serious understatement.

This is not an isolated incident, by any means. When I moved back to Toronto from southern California in 2002, my furniture arrived in a big truck (as you would expect) from Alex Moving and Storage, a North American Van Lines agent in Orange County. The movers, who I think were just tired and cranky from driving all night, decided that they couldn’t park the truck in front of the apartment building (it was common for moving trucks to park there, although technically not legal), and they couldn’t get the truck into the back laneway in spite of all the other trucks of that size that I’d seen get into exactly that same spot. So they drove away with all my furniture, and their local affiliate, Blue Bird Moving, called me to extort an additional $US827.63 from me to offload my furniture to a smaller truck and bring it back the next day — which is more than it cost to have movers move the same load of stuff from that apartment to another one about a year later. That’s after I already paid Alex Moving $US4,500 to get the stuff here in the first place. To top it off, they damaged some leather furniture — furniture that had been shrink-wrapped to guard against just such damage before leaving California and somehow was mysteriously unwrapped somewhere along the way. The insurance adjuster who visited from NAVL said that I would certainly be eligible for compensation since the damage would take a few hundred dollars to repair, but his final report (ever faithful to the company, I suppose) deemed that it was all less than the $100 deductible. One such episode would be bad enough, but to be screwed by the NAVL agent in Orange County, the agent in Toronto, and their insurance company, all on one move, was a bit much.

Then this morning, I saw this post on Feministe about her particular moving hell, and realize that incompetent/unscrupulous moving companies are just part of life everywhere.

Not so friendly after all

American “friendly fire” is now responsible for over 15% of our military deaths in Afghanistan since 2002: 5 out of 32, assuming that the rest of the injured from this weekend’s strafing run by an American fighter jet on a Canadian troop survive. You can be sure that if we were killing 15% of the Americans who were dying over there, it would be an international, border-closing incident.